Open Question: My boyfriend’s ex still can’t forget him?
I’ve dated my boyfriend for about six months, we’re both 20. We love each other like crazy.
He had a girlfriend right before me who went through a very terrible life.
She has a blood coagulation happening in her kidney, and as far as I know, there’s no way to cure it. It will slowly and painfully kill her. She does not know her biological father, her parents divorced before she was born. She was raped by her stepfather at age of 11 for five years. She was lesbian raped in high school. She has been sex doll of her past boyfriends who only wanted to get laid with her. Yes, she is extremely pretty. She even attempted suicide.
My boyfriend was the only one who picked her up, who made her happy and gave her a reason to live her life again. As much as I hate to admit it, he was her champion and savior. But part of her disease made her have severe mood swing, almost like PMS’ing 24/7, and she put him through LOTS of drama. Despite all that, he truly understood her and stood by her. She couldn’t control her emotions and thought it’d only tire him, although she loved him to death. She asked him to leave her, for his sake.
Even now, they’re best friends and he’s always there for her. I once bad mouthed her, calling her a bitsh. His face stiffened and he warned me not to attack the weak. He admitted that he was very frustrated with being her because of the drama, but that doesn’t make him stop caring about her. She is like his little sister with disability.
I usually don’t have a problem with that, knowing all she’s been through, and the way he protected her, I’m even proud of my boyfriend having such a big heart.
But recently, I had a chance to talk to her. She said that she still loves him more than anything.
What should I do, just say “too bad” and ignore?
Oh trust me, I love him way more than she does, I’m not giving him up, but I don’t want to break that girl’s heart either.
Thank you for reading the long story.

Tue, 24 Feb 2009 06:07:34 GMT
Open Question: will the national guard let me join if i have a heart condition its called microvalveprolasp like a heart..?
its like a heart murmur?

Mon, 23 Feb 2009 19:48:21 GMT

Open Question: ecg need some infornation about it pleasee..?
What problems does it show?, i mean like heart disease or something.

Mon, 23 Feb 2009 20:48:01 GMT
Open Question: What can I do for my pain?
I have a pain in the right side of my upper flank, just under the ribs.
I think that it’s my liver, but my doctors won’t tell me. It’s a very long story. Here’s just a short version…
When I was 13, I started my period, and I started to hemorrhage severely.
I bled for 3 weeks, and was very sick. My parents finally figured something was very wrong with me. ( I never told my parents, but they figured it out anyway) They rushed me to the E.R. and they admitted me for a week there. After, I was fine. Until a year later…
I was at my grandma’s house, and when we were shopping I started to get short of breath. At first, I ignored it, until it got very painful.
after about 45 minutes, it was hurting so bad I couldn’t take a deep breath. My grandma took me back to her house, and I laid down for a while. My grandma kept asking me if she should call an ambulance, but I told her no, so I suffered it out from 1:45 pm to 3:00am.
After that time, I finally told her I couldn’t take it anymore, so we went to the E.R. At the E.R. they did a whole bunch of tests, and said I had a lymph node infection; to go home, I’ll be fine.
Ok. Here’ s the good stuff….
Ok, about 6 months later I had a similar pain, but this time it moved from my chest to my right upper abdomen.
I went to the E.R. again, and there they told me I had a gallbladder attack, I needed surgery if I wanted the pain to leave.
So I went and had the damn surgery done, and blop!
I was fine. or so I thought.
Again…
After 6 months the pain was back, but even worse than before.
At 6:00 am on a friday morning, I woke up and I couldn’t breath, so my dad called an ambulance. This was not just comfortable, it was extreme pain!
Anyways, the EMS personnel told me my heart was skipping beats, so they took me to the local E.R. On the way there, they gave me 3 nitro’s, which didn’t even fade this pain.
This pain was just not I couldn’t breath, it was a very sharp stabbing pain in my middle upper abdomen.
(like the “lymph node infection” pain, but much worse)
Anyways, when I got to the E.R. the doctor there told me I was just having a panic attack, to go home, I’d be fine.
So i left, and went to another E.R. ( because I know this pain is not normal)
And the doctor there told me the same thing.
I went home and tried to ignore the pain, but i couldn’t.
So, at 6:30 am on saturday morning i went to yet another E.R.
And the doctor there asked me a couple questions, and then admitted me on the spot.
It turns out I had abnormal liver function tests, and really highly elevated bilirubin levels.
They kept me for 2 weeks, and then sent me home.
they never told me what was wrong, just that I had abnormal liver function tests, and high bilirubin levels.
Anyways, I had a follow up with my doctor, and she gave me neurontin to try to see if it would help me or not.
( the reason is that I’ve tried everything that’s legal to dull this pain.
I’ve tried morphine, I’ve tried lortabs, percocets, ETC. )
So I tried it and it works better than everything else I’ve tried.
I was just wondering if anyone could help me figure out what this pain is. My doctor mentioned Hepatitis, but she’s never tested me. I’ve had multiple blood transfusions when I was 13. Could this make me get Hepatitis? I was also diagnosed with Von Willebrands Disease at 13, so when I go to the dentist, or anything that could make me bleed, even a little bit, I have to have factor. So I’ve been exposed to A LOT of blood and blood products. And I have a quiet heart murmur.
I don’t have any other health problems but this.
I just can’t figure out why Neurontin helps me, when nothing else does.
I have no problem in taking Neurontin for a long time, I just want to know what is causing the pain.
I’m taking Neurontin 300 mg once daily.
PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!

Mon, 23 Feb 2009 20:35:20 GMT

Open Question: For Christians who smoke…aren’t you committing a sin?
In a sense, smoking is a very slow form of suicide. You cigarettes cause cancer/heart disease and death eventually yet you continue to smoke. Thus, you are consciously making a choice to shorten your life thus suicide.
I don’t believe in sins. I am an atheist. I am also a smoker.
This question was asked just to get how Christians reconcile sin of suicide and smoking.

Mon, 23 Feb 2009 06:01:25 GMT
Open Question: How do I get my 9 month old male cat to stop humping my furniture?
HELP!!! My cat is 9 months old. I can’t get him neutered as he has a heart murmur and he is always humping my couch (ironically the love seat) and all my soft blankets. What can I do? I can’t seem to catch him in the “act”. Ewww!

Mon, 23 Feb 2009 06:42:04 GMT

Open Question: How do you know you have Heart Murmur?
How do I know if I have a heart murmur, are there any symptoms? Thanks

Sun, 22 Feb 2009 21:42:16 GMT

Open Question: what is happening in these quotes, from the great gatsby?
?Aware of the loud beating of my own heart I pulled the door to against the increasing rain.?
Pg. 91
?While the rain continued it had seem like the murmur of their voices, rising and swelling a little, now and then, with gusts of emotion.? pg. 94
??There were twinkle-bells of sunshine in the room he smiled like a weatherman.?
?It?s Stopped raining.? pg. 94
?Daisy admired this aspect or that of the feudal silhouette against the sky, admired the gardens??
pg. 96

Sun, 22 Feb 2009 06:16:33 GMT
Open Question: PORN. what do you think of porn being despicable after reading this?
1)A lot of porn is RAPE.
Most of these women are FORCED to commit the most humiliating sexual acts for money which is RAPE.
It may not be kidnapped on the street and raped there?.but it is rape especially psychologically.
Women are kept as sex slaves and live in cramped rooms where they are abused and forced to ?act?.
These men purchase make up etc for them so they appear ?normal looking? and ?willing?. They are used, exploited in the most heart wrenching manner and then passed on to another set of ?filmers??.the rings of men who collaborate.
They cannot escape, their lives are threatened.
Human trafficking is REAL and a MAJOR source of getting these women, especially in Columbia.
Asian, Korean and Russian women (slavs) are often raped initially and then threatened to have the videos shown to their families who will disown them if they don?t agree to ?act?.
Poor families in this part of the world often send or sell their daughters off to these ?rings? of men who pay them very very little and abuse them to make them act as though they are willing to engage in these sexual acts. They are sex slaves.
2)Not all of porn is rape.
They are ?porn stars? both male and female who make good money and may even enjoy it. But it is the subjugation of women that facilitates porn. These women are portrayed as OBJECTS to be exploited.
They are depicted as pieces of meat to be abused in any form whatsoever. This in turn affects the mindsets of people and is detrimental to wider society?men especially walk around with the perception that women WANT to be treated this way and this is normal.
One?s attitude towards sex changes due to porn…and not in a positive way but in the most destructive manner.
3)Sexual pleasure of any kind and ANY form besides that between a man and woman in a relationship is considered cheating.
At least for people who share high standards and expect to be treated properly.
It is downright desire and very disrespectful to one?s partner and has ruined many many marriages.
People are depicted in porn as sexual animals and viewers walk around consciously or subconsciously seeing people in their daily lives that way. It is a distortion, a disease.
Porn viewers are often people who feel as though they are all alone in the entire world. They are guilt ridden; yet may not recognize it or turn a blind perverted eye.
4)It is the market for porn, the online viewing etc which CAUSES this abuse and all viewers are responsible. Not just for the abuse of these particular women in porn but for the oppression of women in general as it is porn which facilitates wider perceptions.
Women are abused from all different cultures as the porn industry has stereotyped?.black women seen as vulgar, indi and asian women submissive etc. This is despicable.
5)There is no gender equality in porn.
For this who wish to justify their viewing by claiming it is not abuse of women as they are both men and women in porn the fact of the matter is that there are no ?rings? of women who capture men and FORCE them to ?act?.
With regards to porn stars that is not rape; women are still SEEN as the oppressed and exploited OBJECTS and this is what fuels the abuse in wider society (even though these porn stars are willing). With regards to unfaithfulness in a relationship (point 3) it applies to both genders.
6)There are sickasses amongst us who are aware of all of this or who choose to live in denial.
They take pleasure in watching women being sexually tortured ?or trivialized in the cases of consenting porn stars.
These are the perverts and sickasses that CAUSE abuse to continue.
7)Mary Anne Layden, co-director of the Sexual Trauma and Psychopathology Program at the University of Pennsylvania’s Center for Cognitive Therapy, ?internet is a perfect drug delivery system because you are anonymous, aroused and have role models for these behaviors?. Pornography addicts have a more difficult time recovering from their addiction than cocaine addicts, since coke users can get the drug out of their system, but pornographic images stay in the brain forever. Anybody that doesn’t think that pornography is addictive hasn’t tried to stop looking at it.
8)Watching porn is not the norm.
Contrary to popular belief it corrupts your mind and leaves images in your mind of sexual activity that is just sex , NOT LOVE .
It creates a false illusion of what a relationship is, it creates a false illusion of what women REALLY want, and it ultimately creates a false security for people who lack in confidence to actually go out into the real world and meet a real person and actually get to know one another.
To sit and watch porn is to sit in isolation , have images burned into your brain of fake people with fake body parts , fake tans , fake personalities , and separate yourself from the real world .
9)THIS IS A CONFESSION FROM A VIEWER. ?I like porn because; I not so secr
Men look at porn because they have low morals and no respect for women. Everyone knows that porn is filthy and degrading to women, which is why most *decent* women don?t like it. It has nothing to do with the woman?s unwillingness to try new things in the bedroom .
26)Couples who think pornography will ?spice up? their sex life or enhance their marital relationship are being bamboozled by the porn industry. Studies prove that regular viewing of pornography is destructive to marital relationships and leads to one or both partners becoming dissatisfied with their current sexual relationship
27)
A woman?s objection to the use of pornography has nothing to do with low self-esteem or insecurity issues. In fact, it suggests just the opposite: a woman with a high level of self-respect is more likely to object to porn use than a women with low self-esteem or low moral character
28) ?Pornography is destructive not only because it is insulting to one?s wife, but because it takes one?s

Sun, 22 Feb 2009 06:14:14 GMT

Open Question: My 13 year old cat has a heart murmur?
He’s gone through a lot in his life. Nearly died from liver failure, then blood parasites a few months later. He currently has diabetes…
I’ve been treating him for that, and it seems like he’s about to go into remission. However, at his last vet appointment she noted a heart murmur. She specifically mentioned she could not hear it before, probably a month ago. She says she uses a scale of 1-5, instead of 1-6… For whatever reason… He is a 2 on the scale.
As I understand, the only way to properly diagnose is to visit a cardiologist, but it’s just too expensive for us to do so. So now after all he’s gotten through, this could be the nail in the coffin.
I’m curious if anyone knows if this grade 2(out of 5) murmur could end up being harmless? I have read elsewhere that many older cats have murmurs, but the sudden onset seems more like a sign of cardiomyopathy, does it not?
If it were up to me I would spend the money, get an ultrasound and start treating… But unfortunately it is not. He’s a good cat, I don’t want him to suffer a lot. If he has cardiomyopathy will his death be slow and painful?
It’s really extremely depressing.

Sat, 21 Feb 2009 12:45:08 GMT

Voting Question: Various Health Issues / Need Some Advice?
ok well i have not reached my 20’s yet , but uh for about the past year i’ve noticed blood in my spit when my throat isnt dry, because there is more salivility being produced by my body , its really strange because its not like i have a bad cough of any sort , but i have been smoking for 4 years, now the smoking has been getting worse and worse, because of my high anxiety level 2 packs a day, what i want to know is the blood coming from my lungs or my throat, or could it be my heart?? because as i’ve noticed my heart is at 110 bpm at resting level
when i get up and aabout its usually at 130 i dont know if thats because i might have something like heart arythmia or the anxiety , this worsens at night , when i try to sleep, i start to see shit and i feel like hands are on my neck and i start to have these uncontrollable shakes and twitches all over my body to the point were i need a another smoke to calm me down but its not because i want to smoke it makes me sick to my stomach to smoke i literally just chain smoke at night so i can pass out due to the nicotine and not shake i dont take any meds, and i have been clean of drugs for about 6 months not that i did any hard drugs anyways just weed and shrooms could it be some neuron transmitter has fucked up the myelins in my brain and ah shit what shoudl i do , i have been avoiding a doctor for so long, and to top it off theres blood in my semen now
smoking was never an issue though
it just felt like its helped me more than when i didint smoke when i didnt smoke i was a chornic insomniac , i couldnt control my bipolarity and borderline schizophrenia now ive reduced it to just shakes and tremors

Mon, 16 Feb 2009 09:35:23 GMT

Open Question: I just found out I have PCOS and I am devastated…help!?
I’m only 21, and just today found out I have PCOS. It sounds really scary because I read it puts me at risk for developing diabetes, heart disease, becoming overweight,etc. and worst of all infertility problems. I think one of my worst fears has been finding out I can’t have my own children, now my fear is coming true. I can’t believe this. Its not fair!!

Fri, 20 Feb 2009 20:25:25 GMT
Open Question: older dog, anesthesia, elevated liver?
My 12 year old golden retriever/chow mix is scheduled next week to have a dime size black mass removed from her foot. A needle biopsy was one which revealed nothing. Mass will be removed and biopsied as next step. Mass seemed to appear out of no where. As my dog is 12, I am concerned about her “dying on the operating room table”. She has a heart murmur of about 2 on a scale of 1-6. I am also concerned about damaging her liver. Her current bloodwork is all normal except for her ALT is 191 and ALKP is 674. The type of anesthsia being used is going to be pro something. I remember the pro but forget the rest of the name. It is all one word beginning with pro. Is it typical for a dog with this kind of backround,age etc. to go under
anesthesia? Am I taking a rare and usual chance at harming my dog? Thank you.

Fri, 20 Feb 2009 21:15:29 GMT