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Open Question: How can I give the best Christian support to my friend, whose marriage is in trouble?

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Open Question: What do you think of my poem?
The pain of loneliness fettered me for a while,
I felt like a wandering blind man looking for sunshine,
I saw the pain of leaves departing from trees in the chilly fall nights,
I heard the murmur of rain drops falling from the dark menacing clouds.
It was all so quiet all around me,
There was nothing to say or hear about me,
I was living dead looking for a glimpse of life,
My soul was entrapped in the cage of solitude.
Now free from shackles of loneliness,
When I search for happiness in my soul,
My heart again longs for the peace and tranquility of solitude,
Where my thoughts would soar like eagle in deep blue skies,
Where I would be with me and my soul on a distant mountain top,
Now when I seek to discover and be in peace with myself,
I find solitude a bliss which heals my soul,
But how can I forget those haunting lonely days,
When solitude was a curse igniting the flames of desolation in my broken heart.

Tue, 03 Mar 2009 03:54:50 GMT
Open Question: How can I give the best Christian support to my friend, whose marriage is in trouble?
I was talking to her on the phone, and she was just going along, talking about how her day had been, when she very casually says, “My husband just got in; he told me he went out and got Grape Nuts”, just like that, like it was no big deal!!! She just went on talking then about other stuff about her day. I was speechless; I honestly didn’t know what to say—here she just reveals that her husband walks in and callously tells her he has picked up a venereal disease, and then goes on like it was nothing! My heart breaks for her; that she mentioned it with such ease, “…he told me he got Grape Nuts…”, just absolutely blows my mind! I think the poor thing must be in shock.
Well, after collecting myself, I stammered out that I hoped she was okay, but she brushed it off, saying, “Yes, I’m okay…why?” I thought it best not to push the poor dear while she was so vulnerable, so I just told her I would be praying for her, and would talk to her later. She seemed mystified, and said, “Okay….talk to you later.” Like I said, she is clearly not in a normal state at the moment, so could not respond cogently.
I am still so floored that her husband could do this to her. Who knows where he caught the Grape Nuts from? Hopefully, he hasn’t passed it on to anybody. I hope he realizes Grape Nuts wll most likely leave him sterile! How can he be so selfish, and so hard hearted, to just walk in and drop this bombshell on his wife? I think I will have to confront him about what he is doing at some point.
I want to know how best to deal with this situation as a Christian. I have already informed the prayer chain at church, and have them praying that he hasn’t spread around this awful disease. They were as shocked as I was to find out what he had gotten! A group of the church ladies are going over tomorrow to comfort the wife; I know that will help. I feel good that I already broke the news to the church, so as to spare the poor wife from having to relate it all herself. Beyond this, what can I do to help in this delicate situation?
Thank you for your answers!
Nolte, I think they both are pretty bad, but Grape Nuts is one of those diseases requiring a General Mills pracitioner! You look super gorgeous today, by the way. Jon, you are awesome, lol. Filida, I loves ya! Pangel!!!
((((((Pangel))))))
Lol @ JBT Soulful Kris, you took the words right out of my mouth. Neil S, I guess the situation is more serious than I thought!

Tue, 03 Mar 2009 21:38:52 GMT