Fri, 27 Nov 2009 07:57:37 GMT
Open Question: Is there anyone that is dealing with an alcoholic spouse that might be able to offer me some advise?
I have been married for almost 5 yrs. and for this amount of time i have been dealing with the ups and downs of my husbands addiction to alchohol. Now, if he was a total jerk all the time, and a bum that didnt do anything it would make my life alot easier because my simple answer would be, goodbye.
But, its not the case. He is a binge drinker. When he is sober he is everything i have ever wanted in a man. He is sweet and caring, funny, responsible, a hard worker, a good lover a great father..He is my heart.
When he goes on his spurts or binges. Sometimes its weeks in between, sometimes its weekly. He will go off drinking and come back trashed. I would rather not get into small details but its like completely two different people. When he is drunk I hate him. He is a stranger to me and I literally hate him. He has never hit me, but his personality when he drinks is unpredictable and emotional. He knows he has a problem and says he wants to stop but when push comes to shove and he gets the urge he gives in. I’m at my wits end and do not know what to do. I don’t know what else i can do, Ive tried everything…Indifference, pleading, begging, compromising, threatening.
I love the person he is sober and I think I will be completely miserable with out him. But at the same time this is ruining our marriage and I am depressed. Is there anyone going through something similar that can offer me some advice? I just really need someone to talk to and i do not want to go to alanon meetings. I feel like all they will do is make excuses for them.. its a disease” i don’t buy that. It upsets me that he cant just stop. ..
I dont need advice as to what HE can do, I need help with what I can do and HOW I can deal with it, because I do not know if I want to or am ready to leave him..

Fri, 27 Nov 2009 03:23:18 GMT