Open Question: Why all the hate for infertile couples….?
Note* I am unfamiliar with adoption abbreviations so I’m sure I will unintentionally offend a few of you and I don’t mean to.
All of the coercion stories aside…If a mother truly knows that she cannot provide for her child and wants to give it to another family, why is it wrong to adopt that child? Why is it wrong for two people who want to raise a child, to raise someone elses child, whose birth mother cannot provide for him? When I say ‘provide’ I mean provide love and attention, not money. It seems like the collective idea on this message board is that adoptive parents are desperate, drooling, selfish relics of human beings? People who want to adopt are not setting out to “break families apart,” they want to raise children who need homes. Breaking families apart is a tragic side effect, for all parties involved. I have seen that there is especially alot of hatred towards those old barren dried up souls…Infertile people…Lepers…Diseased ones… They put bounties on other women’s uterus’s like pirates? It just seems as though there are alot of people misplacing their anger. Be mad at the adoption agencies taking advantage of people, but don’t be mad at the people who have alot of love to give and don’t have anyone to give it to.
To me, it makes more sense to adopt since the world is so overpopulated. Why would I want to bring a child into the world when there are so many that need homes already? I have had the idea my whole life that I was going to adopt children when I was older.
I had a very positive adoption experience when I was younger. My parents adopted a baby with Down’s syndrome whose parents did not want him after it was detected. Unfortunately he died when he was six years old due to a heart problem. His birth parents did not attend the funeral, and his biological siblings never knew that he existed. My parents’ original intention was to adopt several children with special needs but after he died they did not adopt any more. Maybe this is what made me want to adopt children my whole life. I know that most adoption stories are not as simple or as good as this.
Are people who happen to be infertile just supposed to mourn their infertility and be done with it? Should they start a new hobby, like golf, to take their minds off of the family they could be raising? What about gay couples, should they never be allowed to raise children? Even if it means a stable and loving family?
I do agree that abortion is an option. I do agree that the baby should be raised by a family member if possible. I do not agree that they should automatically be placed in foster care to see if the biological mother/family ‘comes around’.
I agree that parents don’t “deserve” children, infertile or not. But all children definately deserve good parents, and many good parents happen to be infertile (or unwilling to have their own children.)

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 08:03:03 GMT

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