Open Question: Am I making a mistake???
My husband is an alcoholic. Plain and simple. His disease keeps him from keeping a job for more than 4 or 5 months at a time. When he is drunk he is not violent or loud or anything like that, he just drinks until he passes out. But he gets so depressed when he has lost a job b/c he has fallen off the wagon and will sometimes go 6 months before he will even LOOK for another job. I don’t make enough money to support our family so we end up having to have financial help from our parents to survive. It is so humiliating and I do get depressed myself about it. The crazy thing is that I have actually TRIED to make myself hate him enough to leave him, but I can’t. I know how crazy it makes me sound, but I do love him with all of my heart and except for the financial difficulties, he really does okay. When he is not working he does things around the house inside/out, cooks etc. But the fact of the matter is, I don’t want a house husband. Any advice???
I ran out of characters before, but the rest of the story is that he not only has 1 AA sponsor but 2. So he is involved in AA and I have been to Alanon. It’s so difficult b/c I know what every1 is saying is true. He is not setting a good example for our kids (we have 2 boys) and our oldest son (mine from a previous marriage) can’t stand that I am the one having to work all the time when he is in between jobs. That is the worst part, we all love him, but I also know that you can’t love or hate an addict out of their addiction. And I have already dragged one child thru a terrible divorce and can’t bear the thought of dragging our son together thru one. I don’t mean to sound whiney or full of self pity, I think I am just….LOST!
Thu, 17 Jul 2008 05:55:57 GMT
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